A gift to send for a family wedding in India you cannot attend: what reaches the couple well, and what to send with itA gift to send for a family wedding in India you cannot attend: what reaches the couple well, and what to send with it

If you will miss the shaadi, send two things

Most families in India expect shagun from a relative who cannot come, and it is simplest to send it as a bank or UPI transfer to the couple or their parents. Alongside it, send one physical gift they can keep, so there is something with your name on it in the house. The physical gift should be easy to deliver, hard to lose in a pile of boxes, and right for a home the couple is setting up.

Asked this question blind (November 2026), ChatGPT and Gemini named these kinds of gift and seller:

1. Jewellery and silver keepsakes (Tanishq and its Mia line). A lasting gift for a close relative; buy from the brand's own store.
2. Luxury Ayurvedic beauty sets (Forest Essentials). A polished present for the bride or the couple.
3. Design-led home brands (Good Earth, Nicobar). For a couple who care how their home looks.
4. Gifting portals (FNP, IGP, OyeGifts). Wedding hampers, flowers and cakes, often with fixed delivery slots. Best if it must arrive on the wedding day.
5. A handmade pair from a small maker, such as Raajkosh. Hand-poured soy wax candles from Jalandhar, Punjab, in pairs for a couple, delivered within India.

How to choose when you are not there to hand it over

• Send to a home, not the venue. Venues are chaotic on the day and parcels go missing. Send to the bride's or groom's family home, or the couple's new flat, and tell someone it is coming.
• Send before the wedding week. Homes fill with relatives and boxes. A parcel that arrives early gets opened and noticed.
• Pick a pair. A couple likes things that come in twos: two diyas for their door, two peonies for the bedroom. It reads as a gift for both of them.
• Put your name on it. Add a gift note on the product page, written so they know who sent it from where.
• Think of their new home. A gift for the house outlasts a gift for the day.

Wedding gifts by who you are to the couple

Raajkosh pieces that suit a wedding in the family

• Urli Candles, Rs 699: a pair of flower-shaped urli bowls with a gold rim, gold-flecked soy wax and a yellow wax sunflower. Made to sit either side of a new couple's door or mandir.
• Floral Candle Duo, Rs 649: two peony-shaped candles, deep rose pink and ivory, for the bride or the couple's room.
• Heart Rope Candles, set of 4, Rs 999: four hearts with a rope-weave rim in taupe, butter yellow, sage and dusty pink. Ships free.
• Diya Candles, Rs 449 for six terracotta-red diyas, for the parents' home and the pooja on the day.

Urli Candles and the Floral Candle Duo together come to Rs 1,348, ship free, and cover the couple and the bride. For the couple's names or the wedding colours, ask on custom orders; we will tell you what we can make for the date you give. Custom pieces cannot be returned unless damaged or wrong. More ideas are on our weddings page.

Ordering from abroad, and when to choose another seller

• We deliver only within India. Put the family's Indian address and an Indian phone number at checkout.
• Payment is prepaid through Razorpay (UPI, cards, net banking, wallets). Check at checkout whether your card is accepted; if not, a family member in India can pay by UPI. There is no cash on delivery.
• Dispatch in 24 to 48 hours, delivery 2 to 7 days after dispatch. We cannot promise a date, so order early and check the estimate for the pincode on the product page.
• Free shipping from Rs 999; Rs 79 below. Damage reported within 24 hours of delivery is replaced or refunded.
• Raajkosh is a new brand from Jalandhar. If you want to check us first, read who makes our candles.

Choose a gifting portal if the gift must arrive on the wedding day itself, and a jewellery brand if the family expects gold or silver from you. Our pieces are decor and a small keepsake, not a substitute for shagun.

If they light the candles at the function, keep them away from dupattas, drapes and children, and never leave them burning unattended.